this afternoon when i went in to get miss e after her nap, i saw her sitting at one corner of her crib with her baby bear, who was swaddled in her gold cardigan. she held baby bear close to her chest and was gently rocking him.
“is baby bear sleeping?” i asked.
“milky milk,” she replied.
“is baby bear hungry? should we get him some milk?”
she shook her head. “bee-day*, milky milk,” she said more firmly, and she continued rocking him.
then it dawned on me…my little girl was nursing her baby bear!
it was both sweet and amusing to see my 2 year-old pretending to be a mother nursing her baby. recently two of her friends both became older brothers. when they come over for play dates she’ll see their moms nursing their younger siblings. she’ll always run over to watch with attentive interest. (i’ve also had to teach her not to lift the nursing covers.) this was just another gentle reminder how much children learn through watching us as their patterns. as their parents we are automatically their role models and examples.
i’ve also been noticing lately that certain expressions or tones that she uses would sound like how i speak to her. luckily, she’s not just imitating my harsh tones. but now hearing my harsher tones replicated from a second source causes me to check myself a bit more. which is a good thing…more than before i find myself asking the Lord how i should speak to my daughter before reacting to a situation. there are time when He gives me the green light to scold her because the situation warrants it, but then there are also times when He shows me that i’m the one that’s angry but He is not.
*bee-day is how miss e says her own name. she started referring to herself as bee-day around 21 months.